YES! Of course I celebrate Father’s Day for myself. Wasband has been out of the picture for over a decade. I play both roles so yes, I am the dad. I know, I know…but you aren’t biologically a dad…you are a mother. Yes, true! But a mother wears many hats: the cook, the maid, the counselor, the nurse, the teacher, and for single moms with absentee fathers, THE DAD!
My kids don’t remember to wish me a Happy Father’s day so I gently remind them. They don’t think the way I do. They think like most that , well, I have a man-dad who is still my dad. But wait a minute, why do they consider him their dad if he isn’t around to do the dad things. Just because he provided the sperm and has the testosterone, he’s still the dad?! He is not active in your life. He doesn’t even remember your birthday. Heck, the older 4 don’t even talk to him if he even remembers to call when he’s supposed to.
I, she-dad, provide as head of household. I am the one who goes outside and throws the football and plays bocce. I am the one who assembles their beds and chairs and whatever else needs fixing. I am the one who takes them to the bank to set up their account, to the DMV to get their permits..although I cannot teach them to drive due to Wasbands torturous driving when we were married…intentionally would drive reckless to scare me, so now I’m mentally a mess in a passenger seat of anyone’s car. Great Guy! I know, what an asshole. I’m the one who helps with their taxes and fills out their FAFSAs . You get the gist. He is not here for any of that. But it’s not his fault. He’s disabled he can’t do that. And I’m not faulting him for where he is. However, he cannot be here to do any of these things. If he cannot take the time out to give my children LOVE…a simple phone call or text once in a while…he doesn’t deserve the status of FATHER.
And I’m not tooting my horn and saying “Look at me…everything I do or my family”. I hate those “me-show” people so I won’t do that. I am simply stating that since I play both parts, mom and dad, I deserve to celebrate Fathers day for myself. And big deal, I don’t do much anyways. Just the acknowledgement alone is enough. Plus a nice powertool for my tool box would be awesome!
HAPPY FATHER’S DAY TO ALL YOU SINGLE MOTHERS!!
