Why I Became a Midlife Coach for Women

When I think back 15 years ago at age 40, at my start of single mom life, my divorce was in full swing, I would like to say to my younger self …”Hold on, it’s going to be a rough one”! I was trading one survival mode…home-schooling, working multiple jobs, being married to a narcissist … for another; its all on me survival mode. I look back at that struggling women who was just going, and going, trying to figure it out right up until recently. And within the past few years, I have discovered what I didn’t know was possible; a better life, with confidence, love, and abundance. This is why I became a Midlife Coach for women.

I’ve struggled for decades with the feelings of inadequacy, purposeless, and unintentional living. This spilled into my marriage, spilled into my post divorce life, and spilled into all relationships. I was blinded by my own busyness and unworthiness that I didn’t think to pursue or indulge in the hope of some other possibilities for me. I didn’t have time to entertain the thought because I was playing the role of dual parent provider and trying to find where I fit in the world.

During this time of working multiple part-time jobs, while trying to take some college courses, I was in crisis of trying take control of my life. To take power back that I gave away for all those years, especially during the marriage. It was chaos! Chaos in working to barely make enough to pay the bills. Chaos in trying to discover if I was a woman worthy of love and good things. Chaos in making the decisions for my own body, my thoughts, my future, my kids because I didn’t have that luxury fully before.

We as women are inclined to put everything and everyone first. We put ourselves on the back burner; as well as we allow others to put us there. Because that’s how we show love! So making myself a priority in my own life….what the heck is that all about?! That’s a foreign concept! Can you relate?!

Where do you start? You might be saying “I’m a mess, I’m unworthy, I am broken”. Nope….these are feelings. And these feelings don’t define you. They are what you feel, not who you are at your core. Once you uncover these feelings and destructive beliefs, feel them, analyze them….why are they there? Do they belong there? You are aware of these feelings. This is where the work begins. This is a time of healing. A wound isn’t gone in an instant. It starts raw, starts to mend, might have a bruise that fades or might have a permanent scar but it can heal over time.

And then the awakening can start to happen. Its an exciting time! Taking all that you have learned: your joys, triumphs, missteps, challenges, successes; those all make up who you are; all molded into to you. Keep what has worked, reflect on what hasn’t and toss those away. You are wiser going forward. You know that there’s more for you. You feel it deep down. How can you NOT get excited for what’s in store!

And I love sharing in this excitement! For as long as can remember, I’ve been the listener, the advisor, the one people go to. I’ve been being primed my entire life for this purpose; to use my experiences, compassion and empathy along with a kick your ass approach to help others, especially women. Being a coach for midlife women fulfills my next purpose. To guide women from not knowing, to being lost, feeling unfulfilled and wanting more, is truly a blessing that I can’t believe I am a part of. To help and nurture that inner woman, blossom into all that they were meant to be. A life with passion, fulfillment and peace. How do I know this can be true? Because I have been there, living proof of change and am on my own journey of the greatest life possible.

If you are interested in learning more about recreating your life, forming new healthy thoughts and behaviors, discovering your truest self and living a fulfilled life, email me at: katherinethemindshiftcoach@gmail.com . I would love to be a part of your journey to your awakening!

Lets GO!